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Writing Tip: Manage your Expectations

Did you know that recently it has been announced that what kills marriages faster than anything else is unmet expectations?

This blog is not about marriages, however, I think this applies directly to our writing. With the New Year recently upon us, how many of you have made resolutions? How many of us had made resolutions to finish that book? To publish that book? To turn that book into a movie and become insanely famous? (No one, just me?) Anyhoo . . .

The point is, in our writing we must manage our expectations. 

Writing is hard and making a break through in the industry is even harder, some might say that it is nearly impossible. So I am encouraging you to “make resolutions” and to set goals for your writing, but in doing so, make them realistic!

  • Set yourself real goals that you truly can accomplish!
    • Here are some examples:
      • Write Every Day (even if it’s just for 5 minutes)
      • Try to hit a word count every day (even if it’s 20 words).
      • Try to finish as much as that book as possible (even if it’s not the whole thing.)
      • Send out queries to multiple publication houses (but don’t stop writing, waiting to hear back)
  • Don’t give yourself unrealistic expectations.
    • Here are some examples:
      • Starting and Finishing that new idea for a book and having it picked up within the year (yes it can happen, but it doesn’t often)
      • Becoming a millionaire with your first book (Suzanne Collins wrote amazing books for YEARS and was not known until her latest series).

So this year, be kind to yourself and be honest with your writing. Expect that some days will be more productive than others and set realistic expectations.

Happy Writing Everyone!

***If you enjoyed today’s tip, be sure to check out more under the “Writing Tip” tab on my main menu. Have any questions about writing? Feel free to ask in the comment section!


Derek Harvey has a great article expectations in marriage if any of you are interested in reading the article.

16 thoughts on “Writing Tip: Manage your Expectations”

  1. Thank you, Kayla Ann for the tip.

    It’s been almost a year since I’ve started blogging and one of the things that I learned was to not be too upset over unmet expectations. I once wanted a hundred followers within the first two months here on WordPress. I kept wondering why all the newer blogs that started after me was able to but I was left at only five. As the months went on, I learned not to be too upset and that these things take time.

    Recently I posted my first book review. I was still hoping for at least twenty views within the first twenty-four hours that I posted it, but that hasn’t happened yet. So, I started thinking. I can’t control who views and likes my posts. What can I do to get other bloggers to read my posts. If they don’t, well, that’s OK. Everyone has their own taste. I don’t like everything I read, either.

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    1. Hey Claire! Great comments and so much wisdom in your words. You can’t force people to read your work that’s for sure, but I can tell you that I always enjoy reading your work. I hadn’t seen the bookreview, I was mostly offline this weekend, but I will be sure to check it out. I know that you deserve recognition, keep working on it!

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      1. Thank you so much Kayla Ann! You have no idea how much your words of encouragement means to me. I enjoy reading your posts and interacting with you as well. 🙂 ❤

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